Oprah Winfrey once said, “Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.” Though fearing failure can sometimes be an unavoidable feeling, it is also a value in which we must learn if we wish to succeed through life’s hurdles. As existence has proven, the journey for a woman—no matter her race or her origins—has and will continue to be an epic adventure brimming with challenges and unique exhilarations.
But what is a Queen, exactly?
A Queen is an independent being fearful of many things. She becomes scathed by hurtful actions and sometimes collapses from over-exhaustion of her emotions—of feeling too greatly for that which she cares for. She is human. She hurts just as greatly as one does. So what exactly makes her strong and valiant like the Queen one envisions in their mind? It’s her struggle. But it is because of the various hardships and the way she endures, that she comes to expose the bold and withstanding creature that she is.
A Queen believes in herself unconditionally. But such unconditional faith does not arrive without any precedents that challenge the will. It is the way she overcomes challenges. It is the way she sees herself. It is the love in her heart. It is her humanity that makes her a being worth the title.
A Queen is not a ruler. She is not a manipulator or a callous being who must be revered as a goddess or master of the races. She is not above anyone else.
She is a Queen because she believes it. Her strength comes from pain. Her smile shines amidst the suffering she feels. Her eyes shine to reveal the truth. It is the way her hands caress the fragile earth, that you can view her usually unseen gentility. She is kindhearted. She is a dreamer. She is also full of fears. But she doesn’t care. She still lives, despite that which terrifies her core. That is what makes a Queen.
What makes me a Queen?
Some days I’m still unsure if I can hold the title. For it takes no prestige in holding it, but rather a sense of self that must be earned. I’ve journeyed through a great deal of tragedy and heartbreak, and I wonder constantly if I can ever endure without setting myself back. I wake up every morning fighting to be someone I can be proud of. I hope with each new day, I can still aspire to be someone great. I persevere through that which frightens me most, and I only hope that from my fears—I can learn to find my strength.
Every day I am more inspired to live passionately. Every day I seek to spread kindness and hope that I can touch the heart of at least one person. Every day, I glance into the mirror and will myself to find the beauty in who I am. It is then, that I nod my head and smile. I believe that I am a Queen.
And so I am.
Ultimately, being a Queen means being strong in the face of adversity. It means loving others, finding worth in your life, and acknowledging yourself as an individual with the power to change. Every woman, whether triumphant in life’s challenges or not, has the capability to become a strong and independent individual and acknowledge themselves as ‘Queens’ of their own worlds. I know who I am, and I won’t be discouraged by life’s challenges or fearful that I am insignificant in this world. I am a Queen, and it is time that the women of the world discovered that they are too.
-Kiran Bains Sahota